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Gatlin5
08-07-2007, 02:15 PM
Hi All,

I have remained quiet about a tragedy my family and I have been dealing with it these past weeks but felt it was time to share it with you. We lost our 29 year old son Michael on July 5th, 2007. As you can imagine it has been quite devestating. It is day to day in dealing with our grief but we keep putting one foot in front of the other and only handle what we can moment to moment. Michael has worked with me in my business since high school, for the last 11 years so I was blessed to have daily contact with him and as you can imagine he was a very big part of my life. He was an awesome young man and we will miss him very much.

I have included something here that really hits the mark on our spiritual beliefs, I hope if you have been where we find ourselves now that this may provide some comfort for you.

God Bless,

Joe Frontiero and Family


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The Agreement

With each person who passes through your life, you have a soul agreement. What this means is that, long ago in the realm of the soul, you promised to have some special encounter, share some life-shaping experience, complete some soul-honing work with that particular soul in this life. Soul agreements are commitments to the evolution of our individual souls in conjunction with one another, as one by one we make the journey to that state of seamless awareness that the mystics call Enlightenment.

It is because of these agreements on a soul level that at times you may feel a mysterious strange connection with some other person, why difficult people may at times inexplicably inhabit your life, why you may find yourself on a journey with a particular person - as if you had an unwritten contract to fulfill - and then discover that, as if by amputation, your association is suddenly over.

As the community of souls who have gathered together in life on Earth, we have agreed not only to remember for each other the pure state that was our origin, but also to act out whatever portion of the needlessly changing tableau of human experience. We have been called upon to play to ensure our own souls growth, and that of the souls to whom we have made these deep promises.

Some of us are here to be beautiful and strong, others to be cranky and difficult, some to die young and teach us through the searing heartbreak of great loss, others to live long and instruct us through wisdom.

But no matter what role we are playing, we are all enacting a part in that one great spiritual destiny, which is to remember our eternal essence and move toward ultimate union. So it is that every person you meet, each soul who crosses your path and affects you- wonderfully and terribly, briefly, or for a lifetime- is here for that reason, and every relationship you engage in is but a small scene in the vast, ever-unfolding human panoply that is being endlessly enacted for the purpose of your souls development.

When you recognize this, you will suddenly, breathtakingly see that each person has been brought to you with a high and elegant purpose, that each soul has come to touch your soul and teach it, and that each relationship exists to hasten your own souls beautiful awakening.

No longer is anyone a stranger, no longer can any of your relationships be seen as failures to mistakes. In the light of the Spirit, we see that we are all playing out roles that are the fulfillment of an exquisite and all-encompassing plan.

To recognize this is to step out of conflict, and into Grace. For when we realize that life has been so beautifully designed, we will bask in the light of the Spirit we will live in absolute Peace.

~anonymous~
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Michael

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mark975
08-07-2007, 02:39 PM
Joe,

I am so sorry for your family's loss. Thank you for all you shared. I have not yet lost someone that close to me so I can only imagine what it must be like. How wonderful that you had so much time together while working with one another. It must also make Michael’s absence that much more profound. You and your family are in my prayers. Please continue to let us know how you all are doing.

Vikki Smedley

mommotox
08-07-2007, 04:11 PM
Joe,

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the difficult time you are going through. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Godpseed, Michael.

Kim

crfjedi393
08-07-2007, 04:27 PM
I'm sure the tears flow quite easily and often. I'm sorry for your loss.:cry: I will pray for you and your family.
And thanks for sharing "The Agreement". I hadn't read it before.

xr650rocketman
08-07-2007, 06:03 PM
Joe, your kindness and compassion helped Linda, myself and all my family through our tragedy in 2005. What an unbelievable situation for you and your family to be facing now.
Thank you for sharing the sad news of Michael's passing. I can tell it is very hard for you to do.
In Michael's memory please take every opportunity to talk about him to all who really care. It won't make anything any harder than it is and you'll find yourself eventually remembering all the good things in Michael's life and less about the tragedy itself.
Time does not heal the pain. I've tried to start living life as my son would have wanted me to. Try asking yourself, even in your darkest times, what would Michael want me to be doing about things right now?
Your answers may suprise you, some of mine have.
Life is so unpredictable and fragile.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.

Oh yeah....."The thousands of words" I could write really wouldn't mean more than a few....Be strong, we understand your pain. How may we help?

Steve Smith and Family.

50ccMoM
08-07-2007, 10:51 PM
I'm so very sorry to hear of the loss of your son. I cannot imagine what you and your family are going through. You know that your extended family is always here if you need anything at all.

-Angie

Riding the Metro
08-08-2007, 02:58 AM
Words cannot convey our thoughts in these times of your grief.
Know that we, and I speak collectively, are here for you and your family.

Art

erik727
08-08-2007, 05:33 AM
Joe,
I'm so sorry to hear of of your loss. You'll be in our thoughts and prayers.
As Art stated, mere words cannot express the sorrow we feel. If there is anything i can do for you and your family,let me know

Erik Shea

Tatonka
08-08-2007, 08:15 AM
Joe - our thoughts and prayers are with you, Coco and Matt. Please don't hesitate if there is anything (and I mean anything) that Amy & I can do to help.

I enjoyed reading the Soul Agreement - thanks for sharing it with us.

Take care and be strong.

Your friend always,

Bruce

TwinTurbos
08-08-2007, 08:18 AM
Joe,

Thank you for sharing "The Agreement." I am going to forward it to others who I know would appreciate its meaning.

I cannot comprehend what you are going through right now but please know I'm thinking of you and your family. As I've said before, let us know if there is ANYTHING you need.

Amy

Wysong
08-08-2007, 08:56 AM
Joe – You and your family have been and continue to be in my prayers. If I can help in anyway, do not hesitate to ask.

Thank you for sharing The Agreement.

Forever your friend,

David

MxMom94
08-08-2007, 10:17 AM
Joe, you and your family are in my prayers.

char393
08-08-2007, 09:02 PM
Joe,

I cannot begin to fathom your loss. Please know that you and your family will be in our prayers. If there is anything I can do, please let me know.

Thank you for sharing "The Agreement". I'd not read it before, and it's very powerful.

Gatlin5
08-09-2007, 06:18 AM
Thanks everyone for your kind words, thoughts and prayers they do wonders.

The loss of a love one is a life changing experience and there are some very rough waters to tread but when you have the support of so many it is amazing how it can help to keep you a float.

Michael was an awesome young man who was loved very much by his family and so many friends. His memory and presence will always be there with us. We will get through this and life may never be the same but it will be respected that much more for how fragile it truly is and to be a reminder of how dear our time is with the loved ones still here.

Thanks Everyone!

With great affection and love,

Joe

Ps Mike B., in Michael's Obituary I used the quote you shared with us here on RD.

“Rather than mourn the absence of his flame, let us remember how brightly he shined”

KTMissouri
08-09-2007, 10:17 AM
Joe:

I have tried to write something meaningful here, but I just can't come up with words that don't sound trivial. The loss of one of my 4 children would be the darkest of all of my days. I understand now what my parents went through when we lost my brother at 15 years old. It takes being a parent to understand what unconditional love is all about. He would have been 50 years old this year. We have never forgotten. It does get easier with the passage of time.

My heart goes out to you and your family. I just want you to know that I am thinking of you and praying for you and your family.

Shawn

fastlearner
08-09-2007, 09:06 PM
The Agreement was excellent and I sincerely hope its sentiment carries you and your family through this time.